A/N: As a small disclaimer, I want to remind/inform anyone reading this that I had female abusers as well as male ones, and therefore, I put equal scrutiny on both genders. I'm just giving attention to the male-related offenses here because of a very concerning trend in today's culture about what it means to be male,… Continue reading misandry
Gonna be honest here: I don't know a whole lot about clothes or fashion. Growing up, I wore whatever didn't get me sent back to my room to change, or that would keep me relatively safe from clothes-centric emotional abuse ("relatively" being the key word). Sometimes I looked up clothes or a fashion style for… Continue reading modesty
Making my way on the healing journey, I learned about and "made friends" with some saints, though the ones I probably gained the most help from was the Holy Family. Given that most/all of my abuse took place in the family, both by blood and by faith...it took such a long time to look up… Continue reading holy family
I was going to write about something else today, but came upon a life lesson that I really can't leave unwritten. But first, I want to ask something...can we forget everything we know about the word "purity" for a second? Whatever we've heard, wherever we heard it, can we fold it neatly into a box for… Continue reading purity II
I wanted to write about something else today, but something came up. I guess this could be another purity study in relation to feeling dirty after abuse. As I was wrestling with the thought of jumping ship from the Church, one of the things I also thought about giving up on was "saving for marriage".… Continue reading why wait?
I didn't really find an answer to the question I was looking for in my sleep like I'd hoped. What I did find yesterday, even as I got the least busy spot at work, that I could use a vacation. Between working 2 jobs, the unbearable heat, and people skipping out, I'm already exhausted. My confessor had suggested… Continue reading pearls
It's been a long time since I took time to face how dirty I feel. I figured that today would be as good a time as any, especially with how I'm feeling right now. I talked little about the problem with purity after sexual abuse and trauma. My mind rejects most of the things I… Continue reading purity