Resources

(under reconstruction!)


Recommended Reading:

My Peace I Give You (Dawn Eden)

  • A very soulful and insightful guide from one victim/survivor, Dawn, on how the Saints helped her overcome her abusive past and present trials.

Veronica’s Veil (Rev. Lewis S. Fiorelli and T. Pitt Green)

  • A detailed series of essays by a priest and a grown victim/survivor, they discuss the many things most feel, believe, and do in response to their abuse. It does cover the spiritual healing needed, yes, but also gives the other aspects of healing the attention it needs.

Silently Seduced (Dr. Kenneth Adams)

  • Dr. Adams spreads awareness for the lesser known (and sometimes accidental) form of incest known as enmeshment or covert/emotional incest by sharing his findings while working with grown victims/survivors.

When He’s Married to Mom (Dr. Kenneth Adams w/ Alexander P. Morgan)

  • His second book on enmeshment, Dr. Adams gives more focus on men who were enmeshed with their mothers, the issues they came to have from this unhealthy relationship, and how they made it on the road to recovery.

Will I Ever Be Good Enough? (Dr. Karyl McBride)

  • Dr. Karyl McBride addresses the painful problems daughters of narcissistic mothers face in their relationships with others and themselves. (I found strong parallels in narcissism to enmeshment/covert incest, so I consider this also another resource on the latter).

It Wasn’t Your Fault (Beverly Engel)

  • A newer addition to my little library, Engel very thoroughly yet gently touches all types of abuse at their differing degrees while suggesting self-compassion as a cure. Many of us struggle to care for ourselves as we ought, let alone know we are beloved; an affirming and inspiring read.

The Body Keeps The Score (Dr. Bessel Van Der Volk)

  • A topic that doesn’t seem to get as much attention as it deserves, Dr. Bessel addresses the physical consequences even non-physical abuse causes to the victim/survivor’s brain and entire body.

Unbroken (Lauren Hillenbrand)

  • Following the life of Louie Zamperini, a WWII veteran and POW, we get a clear very image of trauma, the consequences of not addressing it properly, and the rewards of finding healing and forgiveness through facing that traumatic past.

The 5 Love Languages (Gary Chapman)

  • Love is a hard thing to understand, and how to best express and receive it is also tricky, hence this insightful study. This original version was mainly addressing married couples, but while it can be applied to others, he made a variety of other editions focusing on those others (I swear by the Singles Edition).

The Emotions God Gave You (Art & Laraine Bennett)

  • Could be considered a sequel to their The Temperament God Gave You,

Online Sources:

RAINN: Rape/Abuse/Incest National Network

  • Probably one of the better known online resources on sexual abuse in the USA that includes detailed statistics, warning signs, common concerns/issues, and more.

Suicide: Read This First

  • If you suffer from suicidal thoughts, read this. It’s saved my life many times.
  • This is also a good resource for those needing to know what to do and say during those critical moments, be it friends or care-providers.

Survivors Chat

  • An online community for victims/survivors of abuse, sexual or otherwise. You can share your story, ask about difficult things you otherwise don’t feel comfortable talking about, or just talk with other victims/survivors from all ages, races, classes, countries, and creeds.
  • If nothing else, you will learn that you’re not alone, and that we’re here for each other. ^_^

Healing Shame of Childhood Abuse with Self-Compassion

  • A lovely article for those of us still struggling with the misplaced shame abuse causes us to oppressively feel.

The Inevitability of Fractured Sibling Relationships in Dysfunctional Families

  • A short story that reveals how common it is for siblings’ relationships to be hurt in families that are dysfunctional due to neglect, as well as abuse and other destructive issues.

Toxic Families Who Scapegoat

  • A small but direct article about the dynamics of the scapegoat, how he/she bears all the blame in the family as well as how the family would gather together against him/her.

Guide To Psychology

  • One of the first resources on psychology I ever had, written by psychologist Dr. Raymond L. Richmond. He covers many topics of interest like abuse, rape, family dysfunction anger, etc. with Catholic and psychological thought, drawing from his own experiences and studies as well as saints and other psychologists like Dr. Carl Jung.

Women Made New

  • A rich resource for (primarily women) seeking healing from sexual abuse done by others and oneself, including videos, links, articles, and even a blog!

Ascension Presents: Fr. Mike Schmitz

  • A source of smiles, deep thinking, and sound advice from a very energetic priest who often talks to young teens/adults. In this collection of videos (also found on their YouTube channel), he addresses all kinds of questions and concerns about life and spirituality.

The Pilgrimage of Mercy: Tour of the Major Relics of St. Maria Goretti

  • A very in-depth resource for those interested in learning about the little patroness of childhood sexual abuse victims/survivors whose relics made a tour around America (once making a stop at my own little parish!).
  • There is also an article addressing the same issue as the one listed just before this resource written by a priest who gave spiritual direction to victims/survivors.

The Bakhita Foundation

  • A non-profit organization a friend of mine is developing to help spread awareness of human trafficking, as well as assist victims/survivors of this growing global problem, named after the patroness of human trafficking victims/survivors, St. Josephine Bakhita.