Every choice, no matter what it is, has a consequence. Choosing hatred has consequences. Choosing love and forgiveness has consequences. So does, of course, that choice. Abortion is a topic that sits very deep in me. It's like an undersea volcano; there's both incredible agony and anger associated with this very controversial topic. It's also a… Continue reading choice
If I were to sum up "trauma" in a word...I'd say "life-altering" is a pretty good one to use. It's something that causes great harm in whatever way the abuse entails, and maybe the worst harm is the harm done to the victim's perspective of reality. When I was growing up, I understood "trauma" from… Continue reading re: trauma
Abuse. Now, that's a loaded word. It's a word some like to ignore/laugh off to avoid facing the pain it carries, or conversely, play the alarmist with to emotionally (over)charge something. I can understand; there's only so much darkness I can take in one sitting, though I do want this matter to be given the care and… Continue reading what is abuse?
Hate is another one of those words that get thrown around these days, and thus has largely lost its meaning: "Why do you gotta hate?" "Choose love, not hate!" "Stop hating on me!" "Haters gonna hate." "Don't be a hater!" "Don't hate!" These days, "hate" (not unlike "love") has been distilled, watered down to mean "to… Continue reading hatred
It took a long time for me to accept myself as a victim of abuse, and an even longer time to accept myself as a survivor. It's popular for us to jump right into the title of "survivor" for empowerment, eager to pin it over our broken hearts. Not me; I only could come to… Continue reading survivor
There was this article that came in my feed recently about 10 tricks the Devil uses to get us playing his game. While it was pretty fascinating to read overall, one of the tricks really stuck with me, and that was his use of "incrementalism". The author defines that as "the devil doesn’t put his… Continue reading temptation & grooming
A familiar word. A common word. A word many who were sexually abused use to describe themselves. Like many things today, "dirty" is considered a good thing, something to joke about...but for us, it's a deep cause of hurt and shame. This shame leads us towards extreme behaviors. One extreme, the more socially accepted and expected of… Continue reading dirty